I was recently told, “sometimes we have to stop fighting against things to see the beauty and love in them.” At first, I wasn’t sure exactly what he meant by this. However, after a great deal of thought to the subject I began to see the beauty in those words. Life sometimes can be hard, and frankly, cruel. I have found myself staring in the mirror at the image of a stranger, left in the shadow of a past and wondering where the light of the future was, unable to see it. The feeling of wandering, angry, alone, scared, confused, while wondering how in the world I found myself in this position has left me bitter and just plain angry. I think this 2020 year seems to have left a lot of people wandering or left feeling stuck. I have been so tired of the negativity and confusion that those became the only thing I could see, making me responsible for it in my life, yet I couldn’t see it. In truth, I lost sight of beautiful things and good things all around me.
In retrospect, I realized I have been fighting this past year against life and what was lost instead of seeing the best side of life, what I still have, and working with it. I know it’s easy to fall into that dark trap of despair. A circle of doubt and helplessness until we only see fog in our path making us trapped. No future, no present, just the past like a stubborn shadow clinging to your side. And then what? How can anyone move forward from that? Why would anyone move from there if that was all they see around them? No wonder we all get stuck and lost sometimes.
It is harder to see the good when we feel so bad or stressed all the time. I think that is the point though, isn’t it? I mean, we have to work our way up. Work being the keyword. No one is born able to walk or run. It takes a lot of ups and downs before we can walk on our own. I learned life is the same way. Understanding you need help can be the first step to healing or learning to move forward. When we have hard falls or dark experiences, it’s difficult to see a helping hand or understand the need for therapy to see the way. Yet, all the help in the world will not amount to anything if we never learn to climb our way out of the darkness to see that path of light to your future. Anyone can show you a door, but we have to walk through it, and sometimes, together.
I guess what I am trying to say is we need to start noticing the beautiful things in life and share them, expand them, or enhance them to spread more beauty in this world. After the dark year our beloved planet has been through, don’t you think it’s time to enjoy some of the beauty life has to offer? Families, friends, laughs, accomplishments, moments of peace, nature, beauty, all of which gives us connections. Connections society tries to break down. Connections anger, resentment, negativity, and walls of hurt that block the good and kindness of the world. Can you think of any walls you have that need to come down? Can you think of any happy moments, memories, or ways to start taking down the walls brick-by-brick? It doesn’t have to be something extreme or intense. It could be something as simple as a loving puppy at your side, a walk in the woods, or a beautiful sunset lighting up the windows. It might be a friendly smile, a random text asking about your day from a friend, or you sending out the smiles or texts to another. Life is full of those beautiful small things, and when we follow them and encourage them, they will lead to paths full of connections with joy and beauty around you making the positive light free to soar.
It’s been a crazy year for us all, hasn’t it? So, let’s change that and make this new season a brighter one. Now is the time to start working our way out of this foggy year and start connecting to see the beauty and love all around us letting it grow and bloom. Who knows what could come of it? A new friend, perhaps? A new chapter? Or hopefully, a new and better beginning, which leads to a life of love, beauty, and happiness.
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